A question filled with romantic intrigue! She was born Vaitiare Eugenie Hirshon in Tahiti, French Polynesia. Her first marriage was to Peter Bandera. She seems to like the name Bandera, despite divorcing, she has used to throughout her acting career. During the late 90's Vaitiare made three appearances on the hit series StarGate SG-1 as Sha're/Amounet. On the set of StarGate she met Michael Shanks, while she didn't marry Shanks she did have a child with him in 1998, her name is Tatiana.
Vaitiare Bandera is either not well known, or not liked because if she has married recently it is not popular knowledge. Or maybe you just have to marry another celebrity to get noticed. If something changes in Vaitare's romantic life, let us know, at least someone will keep track.
Here's a link to her bio on IMDB:
http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0051710/